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TRAUMA THERAPY IN GARDEN CITY, NY
You can't erase the past, but you can change how much control it has over your life now.
YOU’VE TOLD YOURSELF YOU SHOULD BE “over this” BY NOW.
And in a lot of ways, you are—your life has moved on. But certain things still hit a nerve. Maybe you’re saying no to plans more often, pulling away from people, or feeling less like yourself than you used to. It feels easier in the moment, but you end up kicking yourself afterward because you feel so alone. It’s not always obvious why, it just feels like something from the past keeps showing up uninvited.
For some people, that “something” is tied to experiences they immediately recognize as traumatic—abuse, assault, violence, loss, combat, or experiences that completely overwhelmed their sense of safety. For others, although it still feels heavy, it’s harder to define. They think of it more as difficult relationships, emotional neglect, instability, or “stuff from the past” that still affects them today.
MAYBE YOU’RE…
Snapping at loved ones then replaying it and wondering why it felt so intense
Replaying situations in your head over and over, wondering what you should have done differently
Keeping your distance emotionally, even in relationships that matter
Feeling on edge, like you’re always bracing for the worst
Avoiding certain conversations or situations because you know how they’ll make you feel
Struggling to ask for what you need or set boundaries without feeling guilty
Carrying guilt, shame, or responsibility that feels hard to let go of
Maybe part of what’s so painful is that you don’t fully feel like yourself anymore—or you’re not even sure who that version of you is right now. Whatever your experiences look like, the common thread is that they’re still affecting how you feel, how you relate to people, and how you move through your life now.
WHAT YOU’RE EXPERIENCING isn’t RANDOM.
The reactions, relationship patterns, how often you’re reaching for something to numb your feelings, or endless doomscrolling—they all developed for a reason. At some point, they probably helped you get through something.
But now, they’re getting in the way.
HOW I CAN HELP
TRAUMA DOESN’T ALWAYS LOOK THE WAY PEOPLE expect IT TO.
It can stem from a single traumatic experience, but it can also develop through ongoing patterns like emotional neglect, abuse, difficult family dynamics, assault, traumatic loss, military trauma, or relationships that left you feeling unsafe, unsupported, or unable to fully be yourself. Regardless of what your experiences looked like, the effects can stay with you long after the events themselves are over. But they don’t have to keep shaping your life in the same way—and that’s where therapy can help.
Instead of jumping straight into “processing everything,” we first make sense of what’s happening with questions and thoughts like:
Why does this hit you the way it does?
Why this reaction?
How is this connected to what you’ve been through?
As you start to connect those dots, things stop feeling as random—and a lot more workable. When we do go back to specific experiences, we’re not diving in all at once or trying to force anything out. We slow things down enough that you can stay present with what’s coming up—naming it, noticing how it shows up in your body, and staying grounded while moving through it. My role is to help you feel safe and supported in the present while we work to change how trauma is affecting your life now.
Sometimes trauma stops feeling like something that simply happened in the past and starts feeling woven into your reactions, relationships, and day-to-day life.
Therapy helps us slow things down enough to start untangling those threads. When everything feels tangled, chaotic, or hard to make sense of, it’s easy to get stuck in the same reactions and patterns. So we take things one small step at a time—working through experiences in a way that feels manageable and grounded in what you need. Over time, this work can help trauma feel less defining and less consuming–so you have more freedom to live the way you want. Trauma doesn’t have to define you anymore, and you can have more freedom to live the way you want.
TRAUMA THERAPY CAN help YOU…
Let go of second-guessing after conversations or decisions
Experience fewer intrusive memories and nightmares, so your mind and body can finally relax a bit more
Embrace and cultivate more meaningful relationships
Make more space in your life for the things you actually want to do (and have fun doing them!)
Be less hard on yourself and stop feeling like something’s “wrong” with you
Recognize healing isn’t an a-to-b experience, and give yourself grace to move at your own pace
Say what you need and set boundaries without overthinking it
Stop blaming yourself for things that aren’t your fault or were outside your control
Healing becomes possible when the past no longer has such a powerful hold on the present.
Questions?
FAQs
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That’s okay. Some people clearly identify experiences like abuse, assault, loss, or violence as traumatic, while others think more in terms of difficult relationships, emotional neglect, or “things from the past” that still affect them now. We look at how whatever happened is affecting you and showing up in your life—your reactions, your relationships, and how things feel each day.
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Even when something happened years ago, your brain and body can still respond as if the danger is current. Trauma can keep your system stuck in survival mode—constantly scanning for danger, staying on edge, or reacting quickly to things that don’t feel fully safe. That’s part of why it can sometimes feel like what happened was yesterday, even when you logically know it wasn’t.
Over time, patterns like avoidance, shutting down, irritability, isolation, substance use, or trying to stay overly in control can unintentionally reinforce that sense of danger, even though they often started as ways to cope. Part of the work in therapy is helping your mind and body recognize that what happened is over, so the past stops having the same level of control over your day-to-day life.
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I have advanced training in trauma-focused therapies and experience helping people work through many different kinds of trauma—including traumatic experiences like abuse, assault, or combat, as well as more chronic relational experiences like emotional neglect, instability, criticism, or emotionally unsafe relationships that don’t always get recognized as trauma right away.
My approach is grounded in evidence-based work, but always tailored to you—we go at a pace that feels manageable, focusing on helping you process and heal from what happened without feeling overwhelmed or out of control.
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A lot of people use something to deal with painful experiences, especially when things feel overwhelming or hard to process. We can look at how that fits into the bigger picture—what it’s helping with, and what it might be getting in the way of—without judgment. Trauma and coping behaviors like substance use are often connected, so therapy may involve working on both at the same time, while making sure the process feels manageable and not overwhelming. If you’d like to explore that more directly, you can also visit my substance use page HERE for more on how I approach that work.
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A lot of people come to therapy feeling like this is just “how they are,” especially if these patterns have been around for a long time. And while therapy can’t erase what happened or make painful memories disappear, it can change how those experiences affect you now.
For many people, the goal isn’t never feeling pain again—it’s that the pain no longer hijacks their relationships, reactions, or day-to-day life. Over time, therapy can help you feel less stuck in the past, respond differently when old wounds get triggered, and develop a different relationship with what happened—one that often includes more self-understanding, compassion, acceptance, and even recognizing your own resilience.